Write from the future.
When writers create change in their lives, they do it through writing. What else? But change can be hard when we are attached to the emotions of the past.
When we look back, and write about it, we write our history. When we look forwards, and write about it, we write our future.
Logically, we should have to write more about our future than our past in order to move forwards, and not get stuck in the past.
That's not how we do it, though, is it? Usually, we are so emotionally attached to our experiences that we keep writing about them — even when we have written about them numerous times.